Glow.

They are displaying some Doppler radar effect on a screen that details my mother’s body in infra-red 3-D; scrolling up and around and through the entire scan of her body, head to toe. What we are looking for is yellow, that’s the injected dye glowing somewhere it shouldn’t be…the yellow equals my mom’s cancer having the fucking nerve to glow.

Mom’s liver? Clear.

Mom’s kidneys? Clear.

Mom’s Spine? Clear

Mom’s Brain? Clear.

For today, at least, we saw very few yellow patches or spots, which was almost a relief until the scrolling stopped and began to pan from various angles on an area that just about matched the size and mass of my mom’s head – but it is in her chest. Not only is this hideously obese, cancerous mass of death invading my mom’s lungs and vessels, but get this: the fuckin thing has actually wrapped itself around her fucking heart; “like a claw”, as her oncologist so eloquently put it. She starts chemo and radiation tomorrow, simply to be able to get enough relief to breathe a little. She has declined so quickly in the past weeks, it’s crazy. It suddenly and instantaneously made sense to me, watching that thing pulse and glow and suck the very life from my mama’s heart and breaths, why she has been so exhausted for six months…why she has been shriveling away to skin and bones, why she spent weeks in a row one time, not long ago, without being able to keep A THING down…her cough…she coughs from her toes, so hard for so long, she can’t breathe, she’s been working full-time til just a few days ago…I took her remaining packs of cigarettes with me when I left her for the night tonight, she didn’t argue with me. She told me over dinner tonight that she feels like if she quit now and died in a week from now, it would be worth it in order to die a non-smoker. This was poignant as hell in the moment because my mama is never coming out of these woods alive, and we both know that. I will never smoke one around her again or even let her smell it on me…I feel closer to wanting to quit smoking than I can ever recall having been since I started when I was 13…

On a physical level, my mother has always been an exceptional specimen. Her physical strength has always been impressive to me (she used to move furniture “cross-country”), her stamina on the job is unmatched, she is a hard worker. Was a hard worker, she worked up until pretty much the day she literally couldn’t. I just want her to be able to get some air for a while, she suffers so and it’s tough – it exhausts her and has made her irritable most of the time anymore, understandably. She’s so frail…so thin and fragile and childlike; but she’s also still my mother beneath it all…which is a reality that is becoming more surreal by the day.

9 thoughts on “Glow.

  1. Andy says:

    Cancer is a Cunt, isn’t it? My daughter was diagnosed with Leukaemia in March – under similar symptoms. Huge swelling in her neck, x-ray showing a mass of metastasise cells forming a ball that pressed on her heart and lungs. She’s had 8 months of full-on Chemo now, and while she’s in a good place right this minute, by fuck has she has some serious moments. She is five now and is coping better than me. My thoughts are with you … hang in there.

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    • Oh my Dark Gods….
      I cannot imagine the severity and depths of your pain and helplessness, Jesus….I am so terribly and deeply sorry to know this. A 5-year-old doing 8 months of chemo??? My heart just stopped for a gulping moment, I can’t even find words to convey how admirable and brave she is.
      BIG HUGS OF COMFORT AND SUPPORT TO YOU AND YOURS
      See? This is one of those otherwise seemingly trivial instances in which I am reminded of the anguish others are enduring, in comparison to my own. Please keep your chin up, always. And if you ever need someone to talk to, you know where I am. Truly.

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  2. Thinking of you and your Mom. ❤

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